Why Doesn’t Anyone Like Me?
August 28, 2018
It’s not easy making friends, especially during the tumultuous teen years when you’re changing so much.
“High social anxiety, exposure to bullying, physical appearance, race, confusion about who you are, home environment and other issues can all affect the social dynamics of a teen,” said CHI Health Psychotherapist John Duggins, LIMHP, LADC. “And that can lead to beliefs that ‘I must not be good enough’ or ‘there must be something wrong with me.’”
How do you surround yourself with people who like you? “Participation. It sounds fairly simple but it’s not very easy,” Duggins said. “Get involved in clubs at school, after-school programs, sports or volunteering in the community. Wherever you have the opportunity to meet and engage with other teenagers.”
Four Ways Parents Can Help in the Friend Department
- Talk to a trusted teacher, coach or club leader about your teen’s struggles and get their input.
- Encourage your teen to hone conversational skills with you, grandparents or other loved ones.
- Role play social situations with your child so he or she can practice responses.
- Share how you sometimes struggle to make small talk, and how you handle awkward moments.
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- Rude, Mean or Worse? Always Take the Kind Road
- Helicopter No More: Be Present without Hovering
- When Those Facebook Friends Aren’t Your Friends After All
- Teen Suicide: An Alarming Trend
- Cutting: An Explainer
- Empower Your Kids to Handle Peer Pressure
- Simple Ways to Break the Silence – Conversation Starters
- Mood Swings, Aggression, Depression – It’s Not a Phase
- Mental Illness: 10 Warning Signs
- Set Limits for Strong Kids
- Under Your Influence: Parents Play Vital Role in Kids’ Alcohol, Drug Use
- Vaping and Juuling: A Trend on Fire
- Building Kids Up: The Parents' Role
- Why Doesn’t Anyone Like Me?
- Trophy-Free Self-Esteem: Get It with Grit
- Break Free: Releasing Anxiety's Grip