Trophy-Free Self-Esteem: Get It with Grit
August 28, 2018
Self-esteem isn’t about winning. It’s about what you learn along the way.
“Confidence is the key word,” said Teri Echtenkamp, LIMHP, CHI Health psychotherapist. “Kids with self-esteem know their self-worth, their abilities. They can be confident in struggle or in success.”
Following the self-esteem buzz of the late 1980s, researchers found this: “The best way to build self-esteem is in activities that are useful and challenging,” Echtenkamp said.
That doesn’t necessarily mean organized sports or academic achievements. It can be a casual hobby or volunteer work which is personally meaningful.
Just remember that self-esteem isn’t about success. “It’s about growing grit and resilience,” Echtenkamp said. “You build self-esteem out of struggle.”
More from this issue:
- Pressure Doesn’t Make Perfect: Beware Sky-High Expectations
- Rude, Mean or Worse? Always Take the Kind Road
- Helicopter No More: Be Present without Hovering
- When Those Facebook Friends Aren’t Your Friends After All
- Teen Suicide: An Alarming Trend
- Cutting: An Explainer
- Empower Your Kids to Handle Peer Pressure
- Simple Ways to Break the Silence – Conversation Starters
- Mood Swings, Aggression, Depression – It’s Not a Phase
- Mental Illness: 10 Warning Signs
- Set Limits for Strong Kids
- Under Your Influence: Parents Play Vital Role in Kids’ Alcohol, Drug Use
- Vaping and Juuling: A Trend on Fire
- Building Kids Up: The Parents' Role
- Why Doesn’t Anyone Like Me?
- Trophy-Free Self-Esteem: Get It with Grit
- Break Free: Releasing Anxiety's Grip