Anger - CHI Health, Omaha, Nebraska (NE)

When Sophie Gets Angry
Written and Illustrated by Molly Bang
Copyright 1999
ISBN: 0-590-18979-4
Available at Omaha Public Libraries or your local Barnes & Noble Bookstores, or order online.

During playtime, Sophie becomes very angry at her sister. Sophie starts to have a tantrum; however, chooses a more constructive way of handling her anger. She runs outside until she tires, cries a little, then climbs up into a tree and uses the sights, smells, and sounds of nature to relax. She returns home in a peaceful state of mind.

This is a deliciously colorful book that wonderfully demonstrates positive ways to cope with anger and frustration. Additionally, the use of simple metaphors such as roaring and volcanoes help children easily identify with Sophie’s anger and can lead to helpful discussions after reading.

Attila the Angry
Written by Marjorie Weinman Sharmat
Illustrated by Lillian Hoban
Copyright 1985
ISBN: 0-8234-0545-1
Available at Omaha Public Libraries or your local Barnes & Noble Bookstores, or order online.

Attila the squirrel has a terrible temper, in fact, his friends don’t even want hang with him anymore. In a huff, he goes home and reads in the paper about a club for angry animals. Attila decides to go and is greeted by Angelica Squirrel who now controls her temper by thinking of pleasant thoughts. Attila does this and gets through the next day calmly until he is pushed to the limit by Rusty Horse. Attila calls up Angelica for help and she suggests taking a warm bath, being assertive, and eating a good meal with friends. When his meal is interrupted, he finally looses his temper on Marcy Giraffe. However, this time with Angelica’s help, Attila realizes his error and apologizes.

This well written picture book addresses many significant areas regarding anger control. Strained relationships, reaching out to others for help, using positive self talk, being assertive, and using a variety of self control strategies are just a few notable themes that make this book very appealing to parents and children alike.

Lilly’s Purple Plastic Purse
Written and Illustrated by Kevin Henkes
Copyright 1996
ISBN: 0-688-12897-1
Available at Omaha Public Libraries or your local Barnes & Noble Bookstores, or order online.

Lilly is a perky little mouse who loves school, her teacher, and her new purple plastic purse. When she is gently disciplined for distracting others with her purse, she becomes sad. Rather than express her sadness, she builds it into anger and, in her fury, draws a rude picture of her teacher which she promptly puts in his bag. At the end of the day, she gets her purse back and finds a supportive note written by her teacher. Lilly feels terrible! She tells her parents and even sits in the uncooperative chair at home to help her deal with it. She then draws a picture, writes an apology story, bakes treats, and gives it to her teacher the next day. They both agreed to rip up the rude picture, Lilly learns a valuable lesson, and all is well.

Important to note is the inclusion of sadness as an underlying emotion of anger. We often forget to teach our children anger can mask other feelings-such as hurt, embarrassment, fear, jealousy, disappointment, and loneliness. Often these feelings are at the root of anger; however, anger may be the only thing we recognize. Many times, once the underlying emotion is acknowledged and appropriately dealt with, healthy anger control can be utilized.

When I Feel Angry
Written by Cornelia Maude Spelman
Illustrated by Nancy Cote
Copyright 2000
ISBN: 0-8075-8888-1
Available at Omaha Public Libraries or your local Barnes & Noble Bookstores, or order online.

A little rabbit describes several situations in which she gets angry and the different ways she can control her anger without hurting others.

This simple, yet complete, picture book was written by a licensed social worker and manages to educate and review with children several important concepts about anger control. Some of these include: recognizing situations which trigger anger, accepting anger rather than avoiding it, and positively working through anger in ways that does not hurt others.

After reading this book, it may be beneficial to discuss what events in your child’s life trigger their anger. It may also be helpful to pick some of the suggested control strategies and draw and/or share a time you both successfully used them. This could lead to further teaching/brainstorming on other positive ways to cope with anger.

Helpful Websites:

For kids:
http://kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/emotion/anger.html

http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/emotions/anger/index.html

For parents:
http://www.nncc.org/Guidance/dc31_cope.anger.html

http://www.winnetkaalliance.org/PAST_ARTICLES/anger.htm

http://www.parentingbookmark.com/pages/articleMB01.htm